{"id":19,"date":"2012-04-28T00:25:00","date_gmt":"2012-04-28T00:25:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.benkrefta.com\/transformation\/2012\/04\/28\/meeting-more-ladies-off-the-internet\/"},"modified":"2015-02-17T17:40:50","modified_gmt":"2015-02-17T17:40:50","slug":"meeting-more-ladies-off-the-internet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.benkrefta.com\/transformation\/2012\/04\/28\/meeting-more-ladies-off-the-internet\/","title":{"rendered":"Meeting More Ladies off the internet!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"dating\"<\/a>Meeting people is never a bad thing as I’m always looking to gain experience in social situations with different types of people and hopefully improve my confidence.<\/p>\n

I’ve now probably met dozens of people through the net- many of which are girls through dating sites and have been quite lucky to have had these experiences compared to my parent’s generation where there was no internet, or technophobes who don’t want to or think about using the net to meet people in real life.<\/p>\n

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For someone who spends most of this days indoors and shying away from anything remotely out of the ordinary, I first wish to congratulate myself for getting out, going to Hayes and meeting a very different type of girl.<\/div>\n

O:
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Ironically, O\u2019s not very typical of most Japanese I\u2019m familiar with- very outgoing and impolite at times though extroverted ignorance.<\/div>\n
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Physically she was a big disappointment when I saw her in the flesh compared to her photo. Yet there is something sexy about her and can\u2019t put my finger on it. Perhaps her outgoing personality or asian\/exotic looks?<\/div>\n
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Style-wise, I\u2019ve seen worse, but I wasn\u2019t impressed. Particularly at the fact she wore no make-up and a stained pair of tights! I made a lot of effort to wear nice things, clean my shoes and style my hair, so was gutted she hadn\u2019t presented herself better. Apparently she\u2019s into platform heels! Woulda loved to see her in some! Lol<\/div>\n
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The good thing is, she\u2019s bright, fun, light hearted and up-beat. In one way her extroverted ignorance is good because she can\u2019t read my inner insecurities. Hanging around with someone like that would probably do me good to balance me out and learn to effectively communicate with a different type.<\/div>\n
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Other than being incapable of appreciating her thinking and vice versa, her ‘ESTP’ abruptness and spontaneous outbursts are annoying and at times hurtful, even though I know she doesn\u2019t mean to do it. She\u2019s pretty inconsiderate and that\u2019s totally not what I need from a relationship when I\u2019m so insecure and self conscious. Because of her inconsiderate nature, she\u2019s a pretty poor communicator despite the confidence.<\/div>\n
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Because she\u2019s a do-er and very busy, she\u2019s taken A LOT of action and got good at a lot of things- pro level at sports, music, business, languages and even winning at gambling, making money! It\u2019s SERIOUSLY intimidating and makes me feel like a failure in comparison. What can I do- draw a half decent picture when I put my mind to it?<\/div>\n
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From her, and previous dates I learned:<\/div>\n